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Fearful for the Future: A List

An incomplete list of things I fear as the mother of a 21-month old boy: // cancer; drowning; dying in a fire; dying in a Trump-related nuclear conflagration; getting hit by a car;  growing up and going to university and …

Trauma: A Love Story in Three Parts

Birth The birth is a disaster, as births often are. It begins slowly and stretches for days. When I tell people this later, other new mothers make a hissing sound, a sharp inhale between bared teeth, the international sound of …

Sleep Training: A Love/Hate Story

What: Sleep training. Fuuuuuck. Like vaccines and introducing solid foods, there are schools of thought on this one. Some people think it’s damaging to the baby, or to the parent-child relationship; some people think it’s just another milestone in infancy, …

Grief and Joy: Birth Stories

Before I gave birth, I had a vision for what it might look like. I read Ina May Gaskin. I talked to my mom. I practiced breathing. I wrote out birth mantras on index cards. By the time he actually …

Why Me-Ternity Misses the Point

Oh, Meghann Foyle. I feel sort of bad for you, to be honest. Your tongue-in-cheek article for the New York Post, positing that you should have a “me-ternity leave,” has prompted such a backlash that it’s no wonder you cancelled …

Life in the 4th Trimester

It has been 49 days since NS was born. Things are getting loopy. The fourth trimester, the first 100 days, whatever you want to call it—this time is weird. Not just weird; it’s rough. The process of coming into this …