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Fearful for the Future: A List

An incomplete list of things I fear as the mother of a 21-month old boy: // cancer; drowning; dying in a fire; dying in a Trump-related nuclear conflagration; getting hit by a car;  growing up and going to university and …

“I’m a Punk!”: Toddler Time

Tonight, my no-longer-a-baby baby, clad only in a diaper, climbed on top of me and bellowed “I’m a punk!” the way a wolf would howl gleefully at a moon. He’s 20 months old. In baby terms, he’s a teenager—funny, wise, …

To the Women on the Fence

To the undecided woman: You may now be getting to the point where making a decision about kids—yes or no—feels like an imperative. It might be a decision you have to reckon with in order to take your relationship to …

Get On My Wave(length)

Wavelengths. It all comes down to wavelengths. When you fall in love at first sight—that electricity up and down your arms, into the pit of your stomach, and out through a grin you can’t control—it’s not because you’re ka-blammo’ed by …

Trauma: A Love Story in Three Parts

Birth The birth is a disaster, as births often are. It begins slowly and stretches for days. When I tell people this later, other new mothers make a hissing sound, a sharp inhale between bared teeth, the international sound of …

Sleep Training: A Love/Hate Story

What: Sleep training. Fuuuuuck. Like vaccines and introducing solid foods, there are schools of thought on this one. Some people think it’s damaging to the baby, or to the parent-child relationship; some people think it’s just another milestone in infancy, …

Size Three Diapers

NS grows like a weed. He’s always been tall—long? Are babies long or tall?—and with his rigorous feeding schedule of roughly one million times per day, he’s packed on more than ten pounds in the last 20 weeks. He never …

How to be Friends With a Baby

Someone’s always gotta go first: first to the edge of the pool, first to the altar, first to sign the deed on the house, first to get knocked up. And if you’re part of a tight-knit group of friends, people’s …

Society Girls and Boys

I’m not going to lie: having a baby is terrible for your social life. First of all, you just don’t really sleep for the first couple months.  If you’re breastfeeding, you are completely fucked for sleep, because the sadists that …