Mamas, Build Your Own Church

I just spent the last three hours cleaning out my Saved Links on Facebook (do y’all know about this? It’s basically the best part of Facebook for me these days), and a full one-third of the articles and links I’d …

Size Three Diapers

NS grows like a weed. He’s always been tall—long? Are babies long or tall?—and with his rigorous feeding schedule of roughly one million times per day, he’s packed on more than ten pounds in the last 20 weeks. He never …

Fatherhood Is Pretty Good

There’s a saying out there in the world that goes something like: “women become mothers when they find out they’re pregnant, while men become fathers when they meet their first child.” To which I reply, fie on your gender essentialist …

Sleep Deprivation

When I am hungry, I get cranky. When I’m tired, I get cranky. But when I’m exhausted? Like, well and truly beat? I get fucked up. Before I had a baby, the most tired I had ever been was after …

Permission Slips

Having a baby in the house means that every day, you are faced with literally thousands of options and decisions. Some of them will require zero reflection, while others may cause you angst. To save you some sturm und drang, …

Motherhood as Art Form

Just as it’s important to cultivate mom friends—comrades in the poop-, tear-, and milk-filled trenches —I believe it’s important to find parents out there in the world who can act as role models. Mom friends are intimate and pretty much …

Grief and Joy: Birth Stories

Before I gave birth, I had a vision for what it might look like. I read Ina May Gaskin. I talked to my mom. I practiced breathing. I wrote out birth mantras on index cards. By the time he actually …

Dream Houses for Grownups

When I was a kid, I used to love drawing pictures of dream houses: here’s where the library is, here’s the secret passageway that connects the snack room to the movie theatre, and here’s the hot tub, naturally situated in …