To the Women on the Fence

To the undecided woman: You may now be getting to the point where making a decision about kids—yes or no—feels like an imperative. It might be a decision you have to reckon with in order to take your relationship to …

Get On My Wave(length)

Wavelengths. It all comes down to wavelengths. When you fall in love at first sight—that electricity up and down your arms, into the pit of your stomach, and out through a grin you can’t control—it’s not because you’re ka-blammo’ed by …

Anatomy of a Hangout: Before and Now

Your life changes when you have kids, man. It changes in big ways, and unexpected little ways. Things that used to be tough are now easy (napping the in the middle of the day? On it), while things that used …

The Mama Syllabus 2

More links to amazing pregnancy, birth, and parenting stories!   My Brother’s Pregnancy and the Making of a New American Family Time magazine Writer Jessi Hemple tells the story of her brother Evan’s pregnancy. Sixteen years after he began his …

Trauma: A Love Story in Three Parts

Birth The birth is a disaster, as births often are. It begins slowly and stretches for days. When I tell people this later, other new mothers make a hissing sound, a sharp inhale between bared teeth, the international sound of …

Dividing Lines

My mom, having raised three kids, understands most of my parenting challenges. She knows that breastfeeding can be an emotional roller coaster, that sleeping can be a real bitch, that the baby garbage can threaten to overwhelm your previously minimalist—or …

The Dream Team

It take a village to raise a child. Doesn’t that conjure up romance in your mind? Dusky chimneys rising above thatched roofs as baby-wearing gardeners tend to their plots of land, or a gentle village made of of aunties and …

Better Parenting Through Science Books

I am not one for internet chat rooms at the best of times, but there’s a special place in hell where the BabyCentre forums are hosted. Leaving aside the capricious grammar, signatures with an overabundance of emojis, constant rants about …

Zig-Zag Mama: A Mamafesto

Let me just start here: I have been wrong. I thought it was going to take us forever to get pregnant. Nope! First month out of the gate and my eggs were like heeyyyy and M’s swimmers were like s’up …