May Monthly Archives

Grief and Joy: Birth Stories

Before I gave birth, I had a vision for what it might look like. I read Ina May Gaskin. I talked to my mom. I practiced breathing. I wrote out birth mantras on index cards. By the time he actually …

Dream Houses for Grownups

When I was a kid, I used to love drawing pictures of dream houses: here’s where the library is, here’s the secret passageway that connects the snack room to the movie theatre, and here’s the hot tub, naturally situated in …

How to be Friends With a Baby

Someone’s always gotta go first: first to the edge of the pool, first to the altar, first to sign the deed on the house, first to get knocked up. And if you’re part of a tight-knit group of friends, people’s …

Push Back (and Back and Back)

As a brand-spanking new parent, Push Back: Guilt in the Age of Natural Parenting was designed to speak my language. I went through my pregnancy under the care of a midwife, and many of my friends follow at least some …

The Care & Feeding of Your C-Section Body

It’s amazing how many women end up getting c-sections. Of the fifteen or so birth stories I’ve heard, spread across roughly a dozen moms, about eight had vaginal births, either unmedicated or with an epidural. The rest were c-sections. Some …

Why Me-Ternity Misses the Point

Oh, Meghann Foyle. I feel sort of bad for you, to be honest. Your tongue-in-cheek article for the New York Post, positing that you should have a “me-ternity leave,” has prompted such a backlash that it’s no wonder you cancelled …